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Same-Sex Marriage, Prop 8, and Jesus’ Words

I am amazed. Since California legalized same-sex marriages in May, 2008 and an estimated 22,000 people of the same sex have wed…our social world and order hasn’t collapsed or fallen apart, as some feared it would.

In fact, I have hardly noticed any difference in life at all, except the amount of money and rhetoric raised in fighting it rather than fighting against the things Jesus was clearly against, namely poverty, injustice and materialism (a homework assignment…look at the number of time Jesus taught on the sins of homosexuality vs. poverty, injustice and materialism…hint, the ratio will look like 0/100). If only we had the same passion to raise $25-27 million dollars in four months (the amount raised since May to support California’s Prop 8) and divide school campuses across the state to combat poverty, injustice and materialism. It really makes me sad and my heart heavy.

But when we profit everyday from poverty, injustice and materialism, why would we truly want it to end. But two men or two women having the word “married” applied to them rather than words “domestic partner” will send us into an uproar…as we are witnessing.

Anyway, for what’s its worth, these are simply my observations of the whole ordeal…

I really wonder how Jesus is feeling.


About The Author

Jeromy Johnson
I live in Folsom, CA, with my wife, Jennifer, and three kids. I am surrounded by and cared for deeply by some great friends. Their love for me is truly a moonlit reflection of Papa's love, and for that, I am deeply blessed and grateful.

Comments

  • http://amyiswalkinginthespirit.blogspot.com Amy

    Jeromy,
    I agree. The more we “war” against something, trying to add “law,” “law,” “law” the less relationship occurs. What Christ-followers truly need to be doing is loving homosexuals out of their sin, rather than berrate them marginalize them and attack them.

    That’s what Jesus did. He understood that we are not to condone or accept their sin, but to LOVE THEM by having relationship with the people who are carrying out the sin.

    If we look at both the stories of Nichademus and the prostitute, we can see this very thing occurring. Jesus LOVED them and poured out His grace. He did not need to go on and on and on telling them what they were doing was bad and sinful. They already knew in their hearts. Jesus LIGHT which occurs from loving someone in relationship does the job of shining so brightly on the darkness of sin, one is bound to “see” it. But by loving a those two, they, themselves stopped doing their sin. We hear Nichademus saying, “I will stop” (paraphrase) before Jesus really had a chance to say anything “confrontive.” Because Jesus stepped into his life…..because nobody else would (Pharisees especially) and loved Him, Nichademis automatically desired to stop his tax schemes/stealing from others because he knew in his heart it was in-line with Love…in line with what Jesus wanted for him to do.

    Great post, Jeromy.

    Blessings,
    ~Amy :)
    http://amyiswalkinginthespirit.blogspot.com

  • http://www.spmagazine.net/ spmag

    Great analogy Jeromy! You are right on. So much money, literally, wasted.

  • http://stormface.wordpress.com Colin McEnroe

    Hello Jeromy,

    Thanks for your post. I would like to reproduce a passage from Zizek’s latest that is entirely relevant to this post:

    “William Butler Yeats’s “Second Coming” seems perfectly to render our present predicament: “The best last all conviction, while the worst / Are full of passionate intensity.” This is an excellent description of the current split between anaemic liberals and impassioned fundamentalists. “The best” are no longer able fully to engage, while “the worst” engage in racist, religious, sexist fanaticism.

    “However, are the terrorist fundamentalists, be they Christian or Muslim, really fundamentalists in the authentic sense of the term? Do they really believe? What they lack is a feature that is easy to discern in all authentic fundamentalists, from Tibetan Buddhists to the Amish in the U.S.: the absence of resentment and envy, the deep indifference towards the non-believers’ way of life. If today’s so-called fundamentalists really believe they have found their way to truth, why should they feel threatened by non-believers, why should they envy them? When a Buddhist encounters a Western hedonist, he hardly condemns him. He just benevolently notes that the hedonist’s search for happiness is self-defeating. In contrast to true fundamentalists, the terrorist pseudo-fundamentalist are deeply bothered, intrigued, fascinated by the sinful life of the non-believers. One can feel that, in fighting the sinful Other, they are fighting their own temptation. These so-called Christian or Muslim fundamentalists are a disgrace to true fundamentalism.

    “It is here that Yeats’s diagnosis falls short of the present predicament: the passionate intensity of a mob bears witness to a lack of true conviction. Deep in themselves, terrorist fundamentalists also lack true conviction- their violent outbursts are proof of it. [...] The problem with fundamentalists is not that we consider them inferior to us, but rather that they themselves secretly consider themselves inferior. This is why our condescending, politically correct assurances that we feel no superiority towards them only make them more furious and feeds their resentment. The problem is [...] that the fundamentalists are already like us, that secretly they have already internalized our standards and measure themselves by them.”

    (Slavoj Zizek, Violence, pp. 85-86)

    Sorry for such a long quote, I just enjoyed reading Zizek’s perspective on this sort of thing and thought it seemed relevant.

    Best,
    Colin

  • Kathy

    Thank you for this post. I have never understood the argument that the existence of someone else’s committed relationship in the same category as mine “threatens” my marriage. Why? Is my marriage so tenuous that it, in fact, rests solely on the definition of marriage itself? Wow! I surely hope not.

  • Chad

    Great post, Jeromy. It is shameful the things we rail against.

    It is good to hear that the legalization of same-sex marriages didn’t cause you to divorce your wife and ask me to marry you. Although, I will admit that I am upset you haven’t called. lol.

  • http://mendingshift.wordpress.com Jeromy

    Colin ~ “the absence of resentment and envy, the deep indifference towards the non-believers’ way of life. If today’s so-called fundamentalists really believe they have found their way to truth, why should they feel threatened by non-believers,” Very wise words…thanks for finding and sharing them.

    Chad ~ LOL Well, I’m still upset you never returned my text message breaking up with you.

  • http://tsdi.wordpress.com/ baddogmooney

    Nice. I agree whole heartedly. You don’t have to look far into this country’s past to know that legislating against vices does nothing to curtail them. I don’t remember Jesus even once trying to get the rules of His day changed.

    He simply loved without precondition; or any condition.

    I recently read Craig Borsale’s “God’s Gravity” (I highly recommend it). It hits hard on the social aspects that are missing in my own Christian life.

    It seems the more I read of Jesus, the more I realize the ones he was most intolerant of were the self-righteous. God, help me to see when I am of that lot.

  • Jim

    I need some education here.
    One of my best friends growing up is gay, I did the California AIDS Ride years ago, so homophobia isn’t the reason that I was going to vote yes on 8.
    As I understood it, and this is probably where I’m wrong, the current law prevents discrimination of gays re: marriage. Does this mean that if a gay couple requested my church to perform a marriage ceremony, my church would have to do it? And if they didn’t their tax-exempt non-profit status could be revoked?
    If that’s not true, then I have no problem with the law as it stands, and I’d vote no on 8. If it is true, then I still have reservations. Can anybody help an ignorant brother out? TIA

  • http://tsdi.wordpress.com/ baddogmooney

    I’m from NY, so I have no idea. here is more information though. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/California_Proposition_8_(2008)

  • http://mendingshift.wordpress.com Jeromy

    I’m from CA, and I still have no idea. My hunch is that will not be the case. Right now churches/pastors can decline to perform a wedding ceromonies based on religious reasons (i.e. some pastors refuse to marry non-christians, or people not a part of thier church/denomination etc). But I could be wrong. I know Maryland has been marrying same-sex couples for a while now, perhaps you can find out how it has or hasn’t effected churches in Maryland…

  • Jim

    Well, sooner or later something biblical will be labelled as discriminatory, or hate speech, etc., and pastors will have to be more an more careful about what they preach.
    Of course, for home churches the point is moot. Which may be the wave of the future anyway, according to the revival going on in China and elsewhere.

  • Yesfor8

    “thou shalt not lie with a man like a woman.” its in the Bible. Jesus loves gays too, but hates the sin. Think about Sodom and Gomorrah. They were destroyed because of their wickedness including the sexual perversion of homosexuality. So Jesus loves all, but hates sin. You just need to look in the Bible it is there.

  • http://jonreid.blogs.com/ Jon

    Jim, is any church ever legally required to marry any couple who requests it? 8 or no 8, the answer is no.

  • http://blogenspiel.wordpress.com Cara

    Thanks for this post.

    It is interesting looking at the church’s right and fight for freedom. How often do we quash other people’s rights and freedoms for the sake of ours? Is that what the church should be fighting for? Is the fight more about our comfort or the sake of others? If our faith is being rocked because of a law, is it really faith? How can we call it faith if we are driven by fear?

  • http://jeromyj.com/mendingshift/ Jeromy

    Cara, you’ve asked some really important questions, questions I believe every person should wrestle with. Thanks for sharing your heart.

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